IT IS OVER WHEN I SAY SO!

How much strength does it take to say these 7 words? Amazingly it takes more composure to adhere to the vein of "Not my will but thine be done."

The first approach embraces the "cut your losses" attitude of "it must suck to be you." The latter might convey "it sucks to be us right now but we'll get through this."

Think of death. We all die someday...maybe just not today. When a person equates dying with "it's over" they deny their loved ones the opportunity to say "Thank you for sharing your life with me."

What does it take?

How do you read me now?

The way things are going today are not the way they went yesterday and won't be the way they go tomorrow. Are you ready for a shock?
Academicians, Historians, Survivors: Power shifts.
Have we learned nothing?

The answer for "How to Behave?"

We don't all want the same thing. This is communicated very clearly but we fall into denial and disbelief!

Do not be afraid. Treat everyone as the most welcomed guest, in the most appreciative manner, and with the most benefit of the doubt as is possible.

You may be hurt but you will not be disappointed.

The Last Word on Process

• Who can remember everything? Only if someday you cease to receive new inputs will you be able to recall 100% of the past. This assumes the memory is a finite storage unit and that some of the memory must be used to process searches for information.
• Does anyone have the luxury of shutting down and letting go of their present and future concerns in order to focus more clearly on past processes?
• When does it make more sense to affect a change? At the beginning or at the end of a process?

Life is a series of processes. Sometimes we make mistakes. Some mistakes get repeated because life is a process.

How Is It Done?

One doesn't just dream this stuff up. Lived experiences become the proving ground for theory. We can all surmise the difference in product having a chef, a poultry farmer, and an impoverished consumer would make on the eggs served for breakfast.

Caregiving is an artform, not a science.

I recommended to a Literacy Champion the need for improved reading resources:

• If we created the best resources in the world they are still worthless if nobody uses them.
• If the best resources in the world are created but not accessible they are useless.
• Unless the best resources in the world exist, there will be people who claim they were not privy to such information.

None of us can do it alone. Maybe the Literacy Crusade to which your organization appeals is the best...you've still got to convince learners that there is something worth reading. Why not start with the Caregiver's Manual for Men? Presently it is online and free. Should it not also be available in hardcopy so these could be distributed and perused at one's leisure? It is possible we could collaborate on something.

What time is it?

Time for Caregiving?

If you had to ask it could already be too late.