Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

misguided
accused
labeled
arrested
charged
tried
convicted
alienated
lambasted
abandoned
mistaken

And that's just a MALACTCALAM...
Wait 'till we all get PUDEKCUF by a system that knows no compassion.

(*) Rules for Justice

• Object Actively.
• Resist Passively.
• Take credit for nothing.
• Always presume good will.
• Listen. Actions speak louder than words.
• Keep communication lines open.
• Accept responsibility in behalf of helping others.
• Be grateful for everything.
• We ALL make mistakes--forgive everyone.
  

I know where my heart is

Tell me if you agree with my Present Endeavor. I am seeking the solution to my caregiver advocate dilemma. Obviously my tolerance for what I perceive as unacceptable delay (I started working on this after Linda's cancer in 2003) is low. I'm not trying to piss anybody off (please pardon my Spanish). I tend to get discouraged when I reach (again, what I see as) the perfect resolution of a problem only to find a new impasse. So I now try to wear my "obedient" caregiver's hat on MLBerg's ITN blog and all the rest (food for thought promoting outspoken disagreement with status quo, civil disobedience, unrest, etc) on the other MLBerg sites. For example, when the health insurance company's standard operating procedure is to deny a multitude of coverage and to do so numerous times (knowing some people will just give up) that is an occasion for objecting and infusing new reasons for hope.

Viewers to form their own opinions and pass judgment. Like it or not. We are judged by an enlightened audience.

Or don't tell me anything. The worst part of not receiving feedback is the difference between doing a great job and screwing things up royally is often just a matter of tweaks. The best part of experiencing horrible injustice is the loss of entitlement once reserved to be given to some folks, whether deserved or otherwise.

Support for Caregivers by "Doing"

Support for Caregivers by "Doing" (Note: broken link to kablog--sorry for  the  surprise!)

God Among Us

Every caregiver has a story. Someone will benefit when that story is told. Sometimes it will benefit the caregivers themselves because they truly witness the hand of God at work. Caregiving can be a humbling experience.

Purposes for Caregiver blog

Consider reasons to develop a Caregiver blog network (Cbn).

1. Opportunity for the Caregiver to connect with others in the Caregiving
   Community.
2. Media for the Caregiver to publish updates about the Care-Receiver.
3. Platform for the Caregiver to relinquish worries and concerns.
4. Storefront for purveyors in the Health Care Industry and vendors in the Financial Planning Market.
   

Difficulties and Hard Truths:

1. Nobody has much excess time for developing new caring relationships.
2. The "real time" stressor of caregiving is rarely captured by the media.
3. If a tree falls in the middle of the forest and nobody is there to witness it, does it make any sound? Someone cares.
   
4. We are so inundated with sales calls the natural reaction becomes "turn a deaf ear." Please be patient.
   

What can be done?

1. Collaborate with meaningful aspirations.
   
2. Create face-to-face prospects for interaction.
3. Always try to respond with positive and hopeful attitudes.
4. Believe intuitive reactions and seek life-giving choices.
   

Return To A New Normal

How do we respond to change?

Resilient. Adaptable. Survival.

Rigid. Fixed. Unwavering.

Altered. Reformed. Different.

Denial. Fixation (Loss). xxx.

Opportunity. Hope. (New) Dreams.

xxx.

Recovery.

Grieve not for yourselves but for those who are despairing. We can change. They only imagine they will cope with today.